3 Simple Truths for When You Feel Like a Failure

If you could name your one fear, the one that’s been a constant all your life, what would it be? I don’t have to think very hard to name mine.

Fear of failure has been with me for as long I can remember: in performance, relationships, others’ opinions of me. Pretty much everything I’ve done in my life is tainted by the fear of doing something wrong.

And even though I feel alone in these feelings, I’ve learned that I’m not so unique as to be the only one to feel insecure, so I thought I’d share three simple truths that help me.

Maybe they’ll help you too, because sometimes we need to be reminded of the simple truths.

3 Simple Truths for When You Feel Like a Failure | HISsparrowBlog

I am a failure.

This may seem a little harsh or self-deprecating, but you know the old saying you can’t improve until you acknowledge the truth?

The truth is I’m a failure in the truest sense. I’m a heartless, selfish, sinful person, and I can never be all I want to be on my own.

But I’m so glad it doesn’t end there.

For all of us have become like one who is unclean, And all our righteous deeds are like a filthy garment; And all of us wither like a leaf, And our iniquities, like the wind, take us away. Isaiah 64:6 | HISsparrowBlog

My failures don’t define me.

Even though I’ll never be all I want to be or what I think I should be, that’s not all I am.

When I was eight, I accepted Jesus as my Savior. I’ve messed up a lot since then. A lot. And I let those mistakes bother me for a long time.

Recently though, I’ve learned in a heart kind of way that God isn’t shaking His head in disappointment with me. He doesn’t look at me and see all my mistakes. He’s not waiting for our meeting in the beyond just to show me what my life could have been like if only I’d not made mistake after mistake.

The only thing He sees when He looks at me is the blood of His Son that perfectly covers my flaws.

He is all that defines me now.

...knowing that you were not redeemed with perishable things like silver or gold ... but with precious blood, as of a lamb unblemished and spotless, the blood of Christ. 1 Peter 1:18-19 | HISsparrowBlog

My failures are beautiful.

It’s so hard to extend myself grace sometimes. On my bad days, all I can see is how I should be, but I don’t have to stay in that mindset. 

My faults and even my mistakes point directly to the Savior. They show the unconditional love of my Father and the work He’s still in doing in me.

They glorify Him, and whatever glorifies God is beautiful.

And He has said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness." Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. 2 Corinthians 12:9 | HISsparrowBlog

I told you this list would be simple, but sometimes that’s exactly what’s needed.

I pray that if you’re here today, you’ve accepted Christ as your Savior, because you’re still stuck at the first point of this article otherwise. Please, please, please read this page if you’ve never accepted Him.

If you have accepted Christ, remember that your worth is never defined by your faults and failures: it can only be found in Him.

Question for you: How do you overcome feeling like a failure? Share in the comments below.

God bless!

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17 thoughts

  1. Another great blog that applies to so many people. It is hard believe the insecurities of others. I wish you could see yourself through the eyes of other people. You make everything better! You are a ray of sunshine and a tremendous blessing!!!

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    1. Lauren, I know what you want mean. It seems like there’s always something I feel like is pointing at me and saying, “Yep, we all knew it, but that just confirms you’re a failure. Why don’t you just do the smart thing and quit? ” I don’t know you, but I’ve visited your site several times. You’re talented, insightful, and have a beautiful Godly purpose. You’re not a failure. May God continue to show you who you are to Him, and thank you for stopping by today. God bless.


  2. So true! Christ is our Redeemer and His strength perfects our weaknesses.
    I too can get mired down in my failures and flaws and focus on the wrong things instead of giving thanks for grace and growing in His love.

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  3. I know that fear all too well. But thank God that in him we are more than our failures, more than our feelings of inadequacy. I’m grateful that in spite of how I may feel about myself at times, my true identity is in Christ!

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  4. I grew up afraid of failure. And it took many years to change my thinking. Yes, we are all failures, which always makes me think we have a lot of good company (because that includes everyone). And yup, they don’t define me. So thankful for that. I like that my failures allow me to give grace to myself and give grace to others (for their failures). One thing that has helped me with feeling like a failure, is developing (cause I sure wasn’t born with one) a sense of humor. Laughing at myself really helps me keep things in perspective.

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